Loyalty or Respect. Your Comment?

I grew up in a typical Italian family, where loyalty and respect went hand and hand and was everything growing up,   As I got older; I thank my parents for my upbringing and to give me the capability to figure things out on my own,  My dad was infamous for this.  Lessons learned.

Meanings of  Respect and Loyalty.

 Do they differ to you?

What is more important in your life?

Definitions of two profound words in today’s society.


noun;  verb;  adjective,

  1. a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation remarks having respect to an earlier plan

  2. 2:  an act of giving particular attention: consideration

  3. 3a:  high or special regard:  esteem:  the quality or state of being esteemed respect plural:  expressions of high or special regard or deference paid our respects

  4. 4: particulardetail a good plan in some respects admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
    “She was respected by everyone she worked with”

esteem, admire, think highly of, have a high opinion of, hold in high regard, hold in (high) esteem, look up to, revere, reverence, honor

“She is highly respected in the book industry”



  1. the quality of being loyal to someone or something.
    “her loyalty to her husband of 34 years”
a strong feeling of support or allegiance.
plural noun: loyalties
“fights with in-laws are distressing because they cause divided loyalties” trust worthiness, duty, dedication, commitment;


steadfastness, staunchness, true-heartednessreliability, dependability, patriotism; 
*(Merriam Dictionary)
I put this on my Facebook page and was surprised how many people said what they did.  “What would you rather chose, Loyalty or Respect, in your life?”

To me, both are a learned behavior.  With that being said, respect can be either a noun, adjective or verb. (respecting/respected).

RESPECT.   A learned behavior of the fundamentals of the English language that is in a menagerie of words that seem to be losing their meaning and used in manners so loosely.  It now covers so many different areas of life, than what it was intended for.

Respect, has too broad of a spectrum and is used to loosely today, with no meaning or sincerity, behind it.  Or should I say no value behind the merit of the word?   Sometimes I wonder, when people use it in a sentence or just as one word, or in the shit music we hear today, as I have heard it said.  Do they know the value and integrity of this word?

 I believe I was raised with good morals and values of life.  How to treat people, with respect.  It is not earned, it is not given, it is not making notches in a pole to get to the top.

 RESPECT.   Is learned, taught to you.  You would respect anyone, from a homeless person to President of the United States.  (If you wanted too, not going there and I am not saying I would or wouldn’t).

I was taught to respect anyone that comes or crosses my path in your life.   If a stranger said, “Good Morning”, I would respectfully say it back. If you are introduced at a meeting to another colleague, you would shake their hand and show respect for that gesture.    Respect, I can’t say it is earned, I can say it’s a given, to all of the mankind, if learned and used.  If someone doesn’t treat you well,  with the same respect as you have given,  who walks away with the respect you have given, when you walk away, who holds the respect.    You do.  Because it was taught to you.




This I feel is another animal and some people believe it means the same as respect.  Loyalty stands alone.  A noun.  Nothing more said.  It can not be used with suffix, prefixes or any other English language without connotation.  One word, which means so much, and also is wide spread, but never lost its translation of the meaning of.

When soldiers are combating, and they say, “Don’t worry, I got your back” is that respect or loyalty to another man.  Loyalty is earned.  You can give respect to anyone and it can be taken away.  Or given at one time, and not the other when you see that person.  If you are loyal to someone or something, I think there is a bond that is beyond the meaning of respect.

Remember, Loyalty it’s one word and means one thing; forever.

It is only one word and a noun, just a noun, adding a suffix, prefix or anything to it, you couldn’t, it would still be loyal and is used so little today, but behind that noun loyalty is supported by the strongest words in the English language.

 Trust, worthiness, duty, dedication, commitment;

allegiancefaithfulness, obedienceadherencehomagedevotion; steadfastness, staunchness, true-heartednessreliability, dependability, and patriotism.

What a powerful one word, Loyalty.

I chose Loyalty in my life .

The Bitchen Phoenix





















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