Evolving Family of Yesterday and the Present
Have you ever looked up the definitions of the word family? I found that the word love is nowhere to be found in any definition anywhere. It is the co-existence of people. Go ahead, look for yourself.
As of the age of 60, I look back and more of my friends and relatives say, they were not shown any affection growing up. The problems with half of us today of the 50’s and earlier, are shown on a display what seems to be the perfect union for a family with the love that we nurtured to our children, and theirs now. Instill by the growth of the 60’s movement of peace and love, that was all we knew and we probably resented our parents for not showing this emotion of care-free love. So now we were on an uncertain path of parenthood. With open arms and of a flower-child, hippie, and flower-power, and with a head full of stranger things than morals or values, we chose Love. Finally.
Our grandparents and our parents to a certain degree were not shown nor taught the emotions we share today with our grandchildren or children. I hate to use this phrase, but, “Back in the day,” our grandparents were probably, mostly immigrants and were too busy trying to make their lives successful in their new found country of America. Whether being a family of 8 or 2, the roles of our grandparents were non-the-less of what they were told to do; respect, work, discipline and have a family. Work was their main attribute toward their family, and that is what most families fathers did. So, we all can say, we had absent fathers, with very little left in them to show affection to all the children. Somehow they managed to show, whether a family of 8 or 2, a special little something individually to each child, to show their love. Whether it be a wink, a word, or a smile, that is what we hold on to.
the desire in comfort have seen destroyed by drink and harlots”
Most our lives we are instilled with what family morals and values are from there parents and so on. Very few families veered off the path of from which they were brought up as. I believe in the last 40 years, that cycle has been finally broken. Not only has the cycle has been broken, but today, a family can be of friends, congregations, a co-existence of people on the same path, it all comes down to love and resonating in the same vibration and being respectful.
Do you think our grandparents believed in this mentality? No. Maybe said to be in a congregation of religion, but not to veer off with people that are just on the same agreement in life. Our grandparents were too busy to make a life for themselves and most of all their families. After 12 hour days of work, for immigrants, learning the language of English, getting to know the new country of their Home, were exhausted to show the love and compassion for 9 or 2 children.